The question in the blog entry below was also posted to Yahoo Answers (amazingly, I haven’t gotten any preachy responses about how I’m a druggie yet!), and after posting it, I started browsing other questions and offering answers to issues regarding women’s health and sexuality. One woman asked for opinions as to why pornography was often viewed as degrading, and it got me thinking about how some women seem to have issues reconciling their fantasies with feminist sensibilities.

In my opinion, there’s basically nothing that can be done in the bedroom between two loving, consenting adults that indicates a lack of respect in regular life. Playing with power dynamics can be a healthy part of a happy, well-developed sex life, and I see nothing wrong with a woman enjoying assuming a submissive role during sex. As long as her partner respects her and does not try to dominate her outside the bedroom, then I think it’s normal and healthy.

It’s true that pornography doesn’t often portray sex realistically, but another complaint I often hear from women is that it encourages degrading behavior (for example, facial cumshots). My opinion is that a sexual activity is only degrading if you interpret it as such. Facials show male dominance over the female, but if they’re just a part of sex play and don’t reflect the man’s true feelings, I fail to see why they should be interpreted as degrading. Honestly, I think facials are pretty much the hottest thing ever, because it’s fun to take on a playfully submissive role during sexual activity, before resuming a normal, egalitarian lifestyle outside the bedroom. Interpreting them as degrading would mean that you thought your partner’s desire to engage in that activity reflected feelings of superiority over you. In a healthy relationship, he wouldn’t view you as inferior, even if he were aroused by you taking on a submissive role during sex.

Trust is key to a good sex life, and it requires a lot of trust to allow someone to dominate you sexually. You have to be certain that they know your limits, as well as being sure that the way they’re treating you during sex is only a part of sex play. A trusting couple can experiment with power dynamics in the bedroom without causing any emotional or physical harm. Allowing someone to call you offensive terms or exhibit violent behavior indicates a very deep level of mutual trust and understanding. Otherwise, it would be insulting and could even be dangerous. Personally, I like to be slapped and choked, but if anyone did that to me other than during sex, it would be horrifying. Part of the fun of being submissive is the knowledge that your partner knows your limits and will only be as dominant as you like for him to be. With that type of trust, you can play with power dynamics in a way that’s fun and exciting, and then revert to a realistic mindset after sex is over.

Anyway, back to helping young girls understand puberty on Yahoo.

I'm interested in getting a piercing but I hate needles! When I had surgery a few years ago, I was on morphine and I got blood drawn without feeling a thing. So, I'm wondering if maybe morphine or a similar strong painkiller could numb me enough that the piercing wouldn't hurt much. Anyone have any ideas about this?

1. I know piercers won't pierce someone who is obviously under the influence of drugs.

2. I know morphine is a prescription medication.

3. I know I should quit being a wuss and just take the pain.

Disregarding the three facts stated above, does anybody know if morphine would work to numb me sufficiently? Or does it not work that way?